On a daily basis, 70% of the people I interact with currently have cancer - or they've just had it surgically removed. Diagnosing someone with cancer, or talking to people about their cancer, is something I do every single day. It is literally routine. I’ve come to think of cancer as common (if not more) as pneumonia, diarrhea, or a cough.
I’m spending this week with a thoracic surgeon, and today we saw about 6 patients in his office between 9 and 12. Each one of these people were referred to his consult for masses or nodules found in their lungs. It took until the last patient of the day, (4 weeks, 4 hours and 100+ patients in to my surgery rotation) for this epiphany to be made:
We were talking to a guy about the mass that was just discovered in his lung a few days ago - and he was running off the list of things he had to do that week. PET scan tomorrow. MRI the next day. Goes back to the oncologist after that. Has to see his cardiologist. Check in with insurance. We were going to send him to interventional radiology for a biopsy, then he needed to come back to us by next week with copies of all those test results.
While he was running through that list, I was viscerally reminded what it was like to be sitting in the doctors office, worrying about a diagnosis - and it wasn’t even my diagnosis. So much energy is spent making those initial arrangements, and there is such a sense of urgency to accomplish them. You’re trying to strategically asses your emotional reserve because news could be better or worse tomorrow after the PET. It could be better or worse after the MRI. Better or worse after the biopsy...it’s a storm that comes without warning, even when it isn’t your diagnosis.
Brendan’s oncologist was so calm. He wore a hippo tie. He stood casually in an exam room surrounded by 5 incredibly anxious adults, and at the time I was blown away by how stoic he seemed.
I get it.
I had already talked to 5 other people that morning about their pulmonary nodules that were all most likely cancer, and he was the 6th one of the day. In that snapshot of life - everybody had cancer, we can treat it and cut it out if we have to, see you in a week after your biopsy and tests.
I get it, but I'm not sure how to feel about how that familiarity comes across to patients.
In retrospect, we absolutely needed D. Rose to stand in that room, relaxed, in a hippo tie, calmly talking to us about the cancer like it wasn’t going to be a big deal.
There was comfort in his confidence.
I can only hope the energy we are giving off to our patients is comparable.
In other news - things are amazing and wonderful for both of us. We couldn't be happier with where we are and what we're doing.
This summer, I left the island for good and stayed with Brendan in Denver for a few months while we both studied for a big test. It was the best decision I've made in a long time. We climbed mountains, we hung out with majestic elk (picture below), we ate scorpions, we got tattoos, we got each other through a miserable test like champions.
I've moved to New Jersey now for my rotations, Brendan has stayed in Denver. Next year we will both be applying to residency with the opportunity to pick up and move to another state yet again. Don't tell him, because he'll probably think I'm a creep - but I plan on being as close as geographically possible to my brother bear the next chance I get.
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| 2 of 2 Klein doctors recommend elk spotting at Fern Lake, RMNP |